I Haven't Met His Kids Yet.....Am I In the Running for Future Wifey?

Question: I've been dating this guy for the past 8 months and the relationship is great! He has two children from a previous relationship. I have yet to meet his children who are 6 and 7 years old. I don't have any children myself and I understand people when they say they don't want to introduce their children to somebody too soon because they don't know if that person is going to be in their life for a while or not. But it's been 8 greats months... Does this mean he does not see a place for me in his future? Or do you think it is still too early for me to meet them?

Answer: This is tricky business! There are so many factors to consider with people and their children! Children are very fragile individuals and most mothers and fathers (the good one's) don't want several men and women in and out of their child's life. It really damages the kids when they get attached to someone and out of no where they disappear. Information I'm sure you already know but it doesn't hurt to reemphasize it! Children don't understand "we're just no longer compatible", "irreconcilable differences", or "I found me a new man" and all the other reasons couple separate. It's just not fair to the kids!!

He may really LIKE you but it's just not time for you to meet the kids! He may see you as a member of his future or he may strongly desire you to be but as a man he wants to make sure everything is"safe" as it relates to his kids and their emotions, (isn't that such a turn on)! I think when a man introduces his girlfriend to his children he is really serious about the relationship. He is pretty sure he has a grip on who you are (which God bless his heart he really put in some work.... us women are extremely complex) and he's pretty sure who he is and the direction he's going in as a man, including where he wants this relationship to go as well!

I hate to be negative Nancy but I would be remiss if I didn't urge you to look at things from every perspective. He could really enjoy your company but doesn't really see you as a future deal. He may be at a time in his life where he needs a break, he needs some fun and you have fit the bill perfectly. If this is the case how do you feel about that? DO you really enjoy being around him? Hanging out and having fun? Well don't stress the issue. As time goes on he may start to view your relationship differently and slowly begin to feel comfortable bringing you around his most prized possessions, the kiddos.

One last thing I want you to consider, make sure he's all the way single!! Some men like to straddle the fence to avoid child support threats, to get sexual benefits from their child's mother, and some are simply confused on what they really want so they play house there and Jonn Travolta off Grease with you when they need some Grease Lightning! MEN! So just be careful hunni and don't exhaust all your energies over thinking it, just keep your ears to the street (as one of my dear friends always say)! if you're looking for a good time, with a good man, then you have it! If you're looking for a husband out of this relationship this conversation should definitely take place for clarity's sake; letting his answer be the final answer in which you respond accordingly.

Utilize Intuition......she already spoke!

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