Question: I saw my best friends boyfriend at the movies with another
chic two weeks ago. The theater was like 45 mins away from our side of town and
I really did not expect to see anyone I knew there. He and the girl looked a
little too friendly and when I made eye contact with him he didn’t even
acknowledge me. It has been killing me inside, should I tell my friend what I
saw!
Answer: Girl strait up, the situation is foul especially since he
did not speak to you, (that’s if you two really made eye contact, you know us
girls and the things we see) but personally I would advise you NOT to say anything, for several
reasons. I have no idea why, but if you tell your bff 9 times out of 10 you will turn into the enemy! His enemy, her enemy, nearly everybody's enemy and it’s really not worth it. Of course he is going to call you a lair
and your bestie is going to engage in this long guessing game as if you of all people
would do anything to hurt her, but unfortunately that's how the cookie crumbles sometimes. A man (and woman) knows how to manipulate a situation, especially if he (She) wants to keep the relationship, this manipulation in return will ultimately isolate your friend and turn her against
you; another piece of that cookie!
Are you single? The reason I asked is because I promise you
the thought or idea of you being the jealous single friend will surface.
If you're in a relationship too then you will be the jealous friend who wishes she had a relationship just like
her best friends'. Either way the boyfriend
will set it up so that you lose! Another thing that will happen if your friend
decides to take him back is she will avoid you, mainly out of embarrassment and
all those other stupid reasons why chicks choose their dudes over virtually everyone.
A last thing to consider is you really don’t know who her boyfriend was with! It could have been
a family member, best friend, or anybody..... and if you did not see them kissing or
something else offensive then you really can’t prove that he was cheating or “inappropriately chillin”!
I’m sure some people would advise you to tell her but to
each is own. I have been on both sides of the fence, the girl whose best friend saw her boyfriend
with another chick & the girl who mistakenly told a friend about her "man". It gets super
messy chile!
Best of luck to Ya!
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