Is it Possible to Forgive Someone that Doesn't Deserve It?

Question: How do you forgive the unforgivable?

Answer: First you have to understand what forgiveness is. To forgive according to Webster means “stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake”. Next I would CHALLENGE you to consider yourself? Have you ever done anything offensive, do you possess any flaws, and do you make mistakes? If your answer is no to all three then perfect angel I now know, teach us all how to be like you! HA! I will venture out to say that you are guilty of 1/3 if not 3/3, so while its difficult when the offense is towards us, it’s equally as important to consider times when we have been the offender!.

Next ask yourself what does forgiveness look like? Forgiveness does not mean that you continue to engage in a personal or close relationship with the person you have forgiven. The choice is ultimately yours, but you don’t have to. Also forgiveness does not mean to forget! When traumatizing things happen to us they leave a memory, however I challenge you exercise that memory in a positive way. For example if you were deceived in relationship, instead of concentrating on why that person deceived you, thank God for showing you who that person truly was and saving you from a future of recurring heartaches. Rejoice in the fact that deception is something you do not have to put up with and move on!!! I know that is a mild offense compared to rape, or abuse, or lifelong consequences as a result of someone else’s selfishness but with God all things are possible and ALL things work together for your good. It may not seem like it initially, but Trust the Process.

Why should you forgive? You should practice forgiveness for yourself because that person could care less that you are upset. They are going on about their lives while you are pissed off because of something they did to you. Basically they gave you an unbearable weight, walked away, and you opted to keep holding it. LET IT GO! How can you let it go? Take that unbearable weight and give it to Jesus. He is stronger that any offense, any mistake, any flaw. He is stronger than any heartache, any STD, any pain! He is the life giver, so give your problems to Him so He in return can give YOU life. Please understand this process sounds simple but it is indeed a process. It takes time, God has to work on you, He has to make you stronger and complete but you 1st have to let Him. You can’t give something to God but bring it up every chance you get. You can’t give something to God but talk about it with your friends every chance you get. You can’t give something to God and constantly check FB pages, Instagrams, Twitters and such. It just won’t work.

Finally understand this: whoever this person is that has wronged you at the end of the day is a human being who makes mistakes, they have made mistakes & they will continue to make mistakes and unfortunately they may never gain the capacity to realize and understand how their actions or their words affect other people! Also never forget that hurt people hurt people! However none of that is any of your concern! Just accept that about the person and give all your questions, frustrations, and concerns about the matter to God!

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