Why Doesn't He Leave Me Alone, I'm Sure His Fiance' Wouldn't Like It!

Question: Why do men still try to pursue you when they are in a relationship and you continuously tell them no?

Answer: Let me start by saying this: a man who is pursing another woman when he is in a relationship is #1- not ready to be in a committed relationship, #2 is highly selfish (another sign they are not relationship ready, remember to be in a relationship one must be SELF-LESS), #3- is motivated by quantity over quality, surface over substance, and equates relationship to sex, with immediate pleasure in mind, as opposed to a substantive relationship, with honoring God in mind, and lastly #4 he struggles with control issues. This type of man wants to engage in a power struggle with you to see if he can break you down. Most often than not in an effort to dump you off when you surrender anyway, but they love to conquer the chase with your best interest NOT in mind! 

So clearly you know what type of individual you are dealing with offhand, if he approached you in the first place and he was already in a relationship! One who isn’t ready! 

Don't fall off into that "he must not be happy in his relationship" bull crap because that is most often NOT THE CASE. We live in 2014 and if his morals are low enough to cheat then his morals are low enough to walk away if need be. I don't care if he's married, got kids, engaged, etc. He can leave that situation the same way he is willing to sabotage all of that to engage in a secretive relationship with you, bringing you into that non sense, this man doesn't care about anybody but himself!!!! ! 

NEVER TRUST A MAN WHO IS PURSING YOU AND HE'S IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE ELSE. HE MAY(AND I MEAN A 2% CHANCE) BE TELLING THE TRUTH BUT HE IS LYING TO HIMSELF SO HE'S STILL ALOOF! 

I also want to add this…many women like the attention! I mean come on, you have a man, (especially if he’s handsome, wealthy, etc) literally chasing after you, begging for your attention! Admit you can see how that may be a little bit hard to cut off all the way, after all if you are constantly telling him NO he has some access to you, RIGHT?!?!?! Now if it’s a situation you can’t avoid, like a co- worker or something I get it but if you seriously want him to leave you alone…..you know how to CUT IT OFF! 

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